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Jeannie Ewing's avatar

Clare, this is a powerful and vital essay to educate people about the issue of sexual violence as a public health concern. I remember reading in Dr. Gabor Mate's book (I think it was The Myth of Normal, but it could have been a different one) about a startling statistic that relates to what you wrote about here: that over 80% of women diagnosed with endometriosis (which I have) were sexually abused/assaulted. That's a phenomenal number, a jarring one.

Also, what's to be said about the correlation between certain autoimmune conditions and cancers and neurological diagnoses with sexual trauma? There's a large percentage there, as well.

In my view, sexual trauma is still stigmatized. Or at least the victims are. We are often silenced, suppressed, and diminished. Even yesterday I met with a friend who told me that her husband "used to push other women sexually" before she had met him. I told her, "That is sexual violence. It's not okay." She didn't want to admit her husband was like that. But I felt it was important to tell her that we need to give voice to the truth, to call things what they are, even when they are ugly truths.

How else will society heal? I don't see another way, besides truth and ongoing compassionate care.

Another thing is, most people don't realize how trauma recovery works. It's an ebb and flow. There are good days and bad days. There is progress and there are seasons of regression. This is all normal. Healing is not linear. But in my experience, few people truly understand - or are equipped - to handle the often volatile swings of recovery. We still don't really grasp mental health, do we?

One reason trauma survivors may never receive the help they need is that the mental health care system is still very much focused on quick, easy solutions. Survivors tend to be overmedicated. If inpatient, their records are like a scarlet letter, an indelible mark against them that can, and often is, used to minimize anything else they may suffer from in the future - medical or otherwise. They are labeled: bipolar, borderline, schizophrenic, depressed, anxious, suicidal.

Professionals in health care do not recognize trauma as the underlying cause of a person's symptoms. They simply treat the symptoms, like a bandage. One example is the granddaughter of a friend of mine, who is 19 years old and is already using a walker. She has severe chronic pain, has seizures daily, suffers from insomnia and nightmares, and is unable to function, let alone work. If you knew her trauma history, you would understand why. Yet the doctors she sees just give her cursory examinations, medicate her, and send her on her way. They do not connect the dots. I see this as one of the many problems with trauma survivors receiving proper care.

Maybe because it's so complex, and the US health care system, anyway, is still designed in a very compartmentalized way: specializations in conventional medicine do not make for comprehensive and long-term care. For those who have access to functional or holistic medicine, it's a step forward. But how many trauma survivors have access to those resources? Not many. Alternative medicine is not covered by US health insurance policies, another problem I see. So, you pay an exorbitant fee out of pocket for alternative treatments, like somatic therapies (EMDR, neurofeedback, brain spotting, myofascial release, psychedelic therapies, etc.). It's grossly unfair.

You are shedding light on an important topic, raising vital questions that must be addressed. The collective trauma of this current society is wrecking humanity. If we don't intervene, what will become of us?

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Skylar Lyralen Kaye, fae/they's avatar

I love your Substack. As a survivor who has struggled with the medical (including mental health) industrial complex all my life, YES. I'm now a yoga/movement teacher and as part of that study somatics and embodiment, including brain spotting and IFS, and WHOA treatment has improved dramatically in the last 3 decades. Somatic and body based psychotherapy actually addresses and can improve the long terms health consequences of complex post traumatic stress. And let me say this...we are all different, of course. I'm not so good with silence. I love your Substack for the way you break with it. And for myself, testifying before US judiciary committees to get the statute of limitations removed for offenders of child sexual abuse, organizing protests, going to the police about my own primary offender gave me a foundation for believing in NOT MY FAULT, which in the end, turns the psyche around. I get this isn't everyone's path. But wanted to speak for its benefits.

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