This conversation covered so many topics I am processing whether alone, in therapy or in conversation with people close to me. I watched Nanette when I was resistant to the idea that I needed therapy for my experiences partly because I felt like I was FINE. FINE, I’m telling you. The fact that I couldn’t engage with any media that showed even mild sexual peril was normal. The fact that I couldn’t even read about the MeToo movement without feeling an urge to wail and yell simultaneously and so avoided all mention of it was normal. The way I felt inside, like I was an alien imitating happy, conforming behaviour was NORMAL. I was definitely a normal person and normal people didn’t need therapy. Nothing to see, nothing to fix. Then I watched Nanette, and felt like they were telling my story. Also, I was telling my therapist just this morning about how my understanding of my relationship with my late father changed post-rebuilding. I spend so much time re-examining the narrative of my life. It’s come as a shock to me that in fact my childhood was not a happy one, lol. All this to say, this will be a conversation I keep returning to and gaining a deeper understanding from. Thank you truly for engaging so deeply with the intersection of trauma, vulnerability, marginalization and misogyny.
Thank you Dee. It's comments like this that remind me why I do this work.
I'm so glad that you found resonance in this piece. I have also had a season of insisting that I was FINE (TOTALLY FINE!) and still rely on therapy to help me sort through the tangled things on my mind. But I've very grateful that you took the time to share these kind words. And that this conversation was useful for you! 🙏
This was a great interview Clare and Aisling. I remember watching Nanette and crying the whole time. You cover so many valuable conversation topics in this piece. I am not sure I can quote all the lines I appreciate. I especially like the parts about rewriting narratives and in understanding that not all victims have the same story to tell. I need to check this Monica interview out as well.
Highly recommend the Monica interview. She is an inspiration to me, and someone I think we all have a lot to learn from. Thanks for your generous comment Catriona, I'm so glad this piece resonated with you. 🙏
Great to see this go live Clare, so glad we had this conversation!!
This conversation covered so many topics I am processing whether alone, in therapy or in conversation with people close to me. I watched Nanette when I was resistant to the idea that I needed therapy for my experiences partly because I felt like I was FINE. FINE, I’m telling you. The fact that I couldn’t engage with any media that showed even mild sexual peril was normal. The fact that I couldn’t even read about the MeToo movement without feeling an urge to wail and yell simultaneously and so avoided all mention of it was normal. The way I felt inside, like I was an alien imitating happy, conforming behaviour was NORMAL. I was definitely a normal person and normal people didn’t need therapy. Nothing to see, nothing to fix. Then I watched Nanette, and felt like they were telling my story. Also, I was telling my therapist just this morning about how my understanding of my relationship with my late father changed post-rebuilding. I spend so much time re-examining the narrative of my life. It’s come as a shock to me that in fact my childhood was not a happy one, lol. All this to say, this will be a conversation I keep returning to and gaining a deeper understanding from. Thank you truly for engaging so deeply with the intersection of trauma, vulnerability, marginalization and misogyny.
Thank you Dee. It's comments like this that remind me why I do this work.
I'm so glad that you found resonance in this piece. I have also had a season of insisting that I was FINE (TOTALLY FINE!) and still rely on therapy to help me sort through the tangled things on my mind. But I've very grateful that you took the time to share these kind words. And that this conversation was useful for you! 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing Dee, I'm so glad this conversation resonated with you!
I relate to this Dee - it took a lot of breaking down to admit that I might need a bit of help. Thank you for sharing.
This was a great interview Clare and Aisling. I remember watching Nanette and crying the whole time. You cover so many valuable conversation topics in this piece. I am not sure I can quote all the lines I appreciate. I especially like the parts about rewriting narratives and in understanding that not all victims have the same story to tell. I need to check this Monica interview out as well.
Highly recommend the Monica interview. She is an inspiration to me, and someone I think we all have a lot to learn from. Thanks for your generous comment Catriona, I'm so glad this piece resonated with you. 🙏
Thanks so much Catriona, glad to know you enjoyed this piece!